Pretty - Ugly

 
Ugly is a word we use to think of ourselves  frequently. We also use "fat", "old", "stupid", and "dumb". We hear those words when we wake up, when we arrange our hair, when we brush our teeth, our friends use it, even we use it about our self,  its why we don't try to make a friend and it's what we are thinking about as we fall into sleep.

Semi-tragically, we can't all be ugly, fat, old, stupid and dumb. That is as impossible as all of being above average. Just doesn't work that way. ugly, fat, old, stupid and dumb are all relative ideas. It really has do with being "more ugly than him/her", there is no pure ugly.

Not much help? We have changed from plain ugly to "uglier than _______". Big deal!

No, it helps, really. Let's think about the scale from ugly to beautiful, or fat to skinny, or young to old, or stupid to smart. Who makes these scales? We can't go to the bureau of standards and find the beauty-ugly scale in a box. It's really just a judgement call, an opinion.

When it comes to opinions there just two: mine and somebody else's. If we spend our life reacting to somebody else's opinions we'll just go crazy. It's easy for someone to make judgements about you, it costs them nothing. We bear the consequences, not them. Generally, it's just a bad idea to give the opinions of others the power to control our choices.

 Ask yourself, "Am I ugly?" Whats the answer? Remember there is no pure ugly so your answer has to be "no".  So maybe its just that you're uglier than Angelina Jolie?

What about "I'm uglier than Angelina"? How do you know? Better hair? Straighter nose? Taller? Slimmer? Isn't that just wishing you are something which you are not? That's not beautiful or gracious. What is inherently uglier about a rounded nose versus a long straight one? Is tall and slim always more beautiful than short and fat? (look at Rubens' portraits of women. He thought they had great beauty and they are a bit fat by today's standards)


Was he wrong?

So its all relative, nobody knows and its all a fraud. You are beautiful, strong, smart and graceful; just act the way you want to be and be the way you act.

What do you think?

You're only pretty as you feel
Only pretty as you feel inside
You're only pretty as you feel
Just as pretty as you feel inside

When you wake up in the morning
Comb your hair
Rub some sleep from your eye
Look inside your mirror
Don't give vanity a second chance
No, no, no
Beauty's only skin deep
It goes just so far 'cause
You're only pretty as you feel
Just as pretty as you feel inside
You're only pretty as you feel inside

Now you're feelin' good
Now you're feelin' pretty
Now you're feelin' good
Now you're ready to face the world girl
Go out there 'n' knock 'em silly girl
Go out there 'n' show 'em how to thrill
'Cause you're only pretty as you feel
Only pretty as you feel

Beauty isn't merely pretty, or perfect, or attractive. It includes harmony, grace, dignity, confidence and the love that shines from inside you to light your world. We can't fix our nose (rhinoplasty hurts, a lot), grow six inches taller or even do much about our shape (you can lose weight and tone muscle but your genes determine where the fat comes off first and last, which may not agree with your plan, so if you're 38-38-42 you might get to 35-34-38, but not to 36- 30-36). You can however become more confident, dignified, and loving. Work on what you can improve.

Take some risks.

Find your skin.