Feeling lonely? Having no friends make you unhappy?
Odd thoughts. Do we really need the social mirrors that others provide to feel complete?
There are 300±100 billion stars in the Milky Way galaxy. That seems like a lot until you realize that is just one star every 38 square light years ( or one star every 6 light years if they were all evenly distributed, and a light year is big, about 6 trillion miles). We're pretty far apart, but consider that the next galaxy from us is 2.5 million light years away. There are a hundred billion galaxies in the universe. There may be 300,000,000,000,000,000,000,000 stars (and planets with beings on them) but this is such a big place. Everything we think of as solid and real is just a faint, thin mist in the universe. How's that for lonely?
That is usually not what we mean when we're unhappily lonely. Usually, we're unhappy because we just don't seem to be able to connect to all those people standing around us. It's not that they're too far away, it's that we're too afraid to reach out. It is emotional distance not physical distance that is the problem.
It's one of the most obvious but least believed truths that everyone else feels pretty much just like you do. They wish you would be their friend as much as you wish they would be your friend. Really, the only people that reject real friends are sociopaths. You don't need to worry about rejection if you are sincere and they are sane. I don't mean not nutty sane, I mean not I-can't-stop-stabbing-myself-with-a-knife insane.
So what's the problem; why are we all still lonely?
Fear. Fear isn't about what's real, it's about what could be. It's the negative side of curiosity. It's the price of a good imagination. If you were as stupid as a rock, you wouldn't worry about what others would do.
Are we stuck forever being unhappy and lonely?
No, not really, we just need to declare a truce in this fight with our darker side. Like everything else it starts with you. Be a friend to everyone you see. A few will be brave enough to try to reciprocate because if someone as clever, beautiful and together as you are will risk being a friend to their thoroughly plain, average and slightly twisted self, then maybe there is a chance.
Take a moment. Look without judging. Listen without speaking.It's what friends do.
Need someone just to hear all your troubles without telling you what is wrong with you? Look around. You already know many people who will do just that. Probably the ones who scare you the most.
Love is all around you.
Odd thoughts. Do we really need the social mirrors that others provide to feel complete?
There are 300±100 billion stars in the Milky Way galaxy. That seems like a lot until you realize that is just one star every 38 square light years ( or one star every 6 light years if they were all evenly distributed, and a light year is big, about 6 trillion miles). We're pretty far apart, but consider that the next galaxy from us is 2.5 million light years away. There are a hundred billion galaxies in the universe. There may be 300,000,000,000,000,000,000,000 stars (and planets with beings on them) but this is such a big place. Everything we think of as solid and real is just a faint, thin mist in the universe. How's that for lonely?
That is usually not what we mean when we're unhappily lonely. Usually, we're unhappy because we just don't seem to be able to connect to all those people standing around us. It's not that they're too far away, it's that we're too afraid to reach out. It is emotional distance not physical distance that is the problem.
It's one of the most obvious but least believed truths that everyone else feels pretty much just like you do. They wish you would be their friend as much as you wish they would be your friend. Really, the only people that reject real friends are sociopaths. You don't need to worry about rejection if you are sincere and they are sane. I don't mean not nutty sane, I mean not I-can't-stop-stabbing-myself-with-a-knife insane.
So what's the problem; why are we all still lonely?
Fear. Fear isn't about what's real, it's about what could be. It's the negative side of curiosity. It's the price of a good imagination. If you were as stupid as a rock, you wouldn't worry about what others would do.
Are we stuck forever being unhappy and lonely?
No, not really, we just need to declare a truce in this fight with our darker side. Like everything else it starts with you. Be a friend to everyone you see. A few will be brave enough to try to reciprocate because if someone as clever, beautiful and together as you are will risk being a friend to their thoroughly plain, average and slightly twisted self, then maybe there is a chance.
Take a moment. Look without judging. Listen without speaking.It's what friends do.
Need someone just to hear all your troubles without telling you what is wrong with you? Look around. You already know many people who will do just that. Probably the ones who scare you the most.
Love is all around you.
